Pea takes to the street to test a survey finding that most Western women would give up physical intimacy before wealth, while most men would give up wealth. She asks Filipinas which of love, sex, or money they could live without, pushes back on their reasoning, and has most of them rank all three. The answers split more than she expected, and almost nobody was willing to give up money.
Setup
- "We've all heard that men want sex and women want money." She cites surveys saying that if forced to give something up, most Western women would sacrifice physical intimacy and most men would do without wealth.
- She expects Filipinas think the same way and asks: "If you had to give up love, sex, or money, which would you live without?" Spoiler: some answers will shock you.
Interviewee 1 (Salonga): gives up sex, then wavers
- She can't give up love because she loves deeply. She'd give up sex because she can live without it.
- Her reasoning: there are many ways to show love (how you treat him, affection). Some couples don't have sex, for instance due to medications.
- Pea counters that older couples probably did it a lot when they were younger, and asks how you show love with no intimacy: "Just hug? Just kiss? But no sex?"
- Salonga backpedals: "not literally... maybe we can have sex," then says she can't give up 100% of sex either because "we really need sex, of course." Pea reminds her she has to pick one.
Interviewee 2: would never give up sex
- She'd give up love because "sometimes love can just pull you down."
- Could she be happy without love? "Of course... if I have money, I can just spend my money on those men and have sex. So, it's okay. It's a win-win for me."
- Why does she think most women give up sex? "I think they're virtuous and self-respect, but I also have a self-respect, but I just love sex."
- Her ranking: money, sex, love, "cuz it's always the practical way."
- Can a woman who gives up sex find a husband? Maybe in a transactional "pen and paper marriage" where each person keeps their own life and doesn't bother the other. It depends on the agreement. Some people marry for convenience or "for show," including people hiding something who want to appear normal and married, but with no sex.
Interviewee 3: gives up sex because a man who loves her should sacrifice
- "If a man truly loves me, he had to sacrifice."
- Pea flips it: if he asked you to prove your love by not withholding something he really wants, what about his happiness? Would he stay?
- She says some men would: "maybe asexual men" or "God-fearing" men. Pea: "God-fearing men can also be horndogs, too, at the same time."
- Her ranking: love, money, sex. Why not give up money? "Nowadays, we have a crisis," so you need money to survive, while you can survive without sex.
- She concedes men love sex ("That is all of happiness for man") and that it's happiness for women too, just more important for men. Pea: "I'm not sure how you can keep a man without that."
Interviewee 4: gives up love
- She sees sex as a foundation. You can have sex without love; she says she personally can't, "but there are many people doing" it.
- Money is "everything for people, especially right now." She notes many single women are still alone when they're old.
- She thinks she could be happy with sex and money but no love, and maybe even with a partner on those terms ("I don't know. But yeah, I think so.").
- Ranking: money, sex, love. "I think I can't live without sex."
Interviewee 5: the outlier who gives up money
- She'd give up money, based on her life experience: if a partner can't provide and is unstable, how do you live, especially with children? So it matters who you're dating, "because just one mistake, everything will [be messed] up."
- Her plan: either she hustles for both of them, they hustle together, or if there are kids, one of them hustles.
- She couldn't be happy without love and sex because when stressed she likes to cuddle and be in bed with her person. "Sometimes in order to calm myself, I just need my person." She'd recently told someone she was talking to that she'd give up money.
- Love beats sex for her because "everything follows": a man who loves you is scared to hurt you and will strive to build a better life for both of you.
- Ranking: love, sex, money. Pea notes this is different from most of the girls.
Interviewee 6: gives up sex, based on an ex
- "If he loves me, he would respect my decision."
- Can she keep a man without sex? Yes: she kept her ex-boyfriend last year without it. But she isn't totally sure a guy can be happy without sex. Love and money are both important to her.
Interviewee 7: the most blunt, gives up love
- "Because we can have sex without love. Hello." Asked if she's done it: "Maybe." You can also have sex with money: "I'll be practical."
- On money: "You will eat love? You will buy clothes using love? No... You can't feed yourself with love."
- Sex is very important: "Since I'm a woman, I need sex." Pea asks if a couple could live together 50 years without sex. Her answer: no, "that's really impossible. You should wake up. Sex is more important than love."
- Ranking: money, sex, love.
Pea's wrap-up
- "Wow, some of those women really don't want to give up sex." She jokes that maybe it's their age, "or maybe we Filipinos are extra horny."
- Next week teased as a story that will warm your heart.
- Outro skit: she's "Bond, James Bond" with "a license to kill misinformation and bad advice," then the like/subscribe/Patreon ask. Closing line: "Well, that left me shaken, but not stirred."
