Pea takes to the streets of Cebu City to ask young urban Filipinas the same pointed questions about loyalty, sex before marriage, children, religion, jealousy and how much a man needs to earn. Their answers on sex and religion are far more liberal than what provincial women usually say, but their money expectations are modest and none of them want a six-foot giant. It is a useful reality check for any foreigner deciding whether a city girl or a province girl is the better fit.
Pea's setup
- City girls can be very different from provincial women, so she wants to find out which is the better match for her viewers
- She asks each woman a standard set of questions: who gets her loyalty first (husband or family), sex before marriage, a perfect guy who doesn't want kids, religion and atheists, how much a man should earn, height, and whether she would date a foreigner her parents disapprove of
- Her running jokes for premarital sex: "test the merchandise first before committing" and "ride the bull first before signing a forever contract"
First interviewee (introduced as "Pearly")
- Loyalty has a time frame: her parents get it now because she is young, but around age 30 it shifts to her future husband
- Says Filipinas are "evolving" (Pea: "Pokemon's evolving") and are now a mix of traditional and modern; she calls herself conservative but wants to enjoy life in a modern way
- Sex before marriage is okay "given the circumstances" because you need to check if you're compatible, even though she just called herself conservative
- Kids are a deal breaker: she wants two, mainly because she wants to see whether they get her face or the father's; if the perfect guy didn't want kids she'd try to convince him and otherwise be sad
- Not religious; what matters is "humanity" and mutual respect. An atheist is fine as long as he's kind, and she adds that "most religious people are actually hypocrites"
- 50,000 pesos a month is enough to support a couple and one child
- Laughs at the idea of a 6-foot man; she wants someone not too tall, around 5'3" to 5'5" (Pea: "very doable... just tip toe")
- Would date a foreigner (her cousin is married to one); if her parents disapproved she'd ask them to respect her decision because it's her own happiness
Second interviewee
- Loyalty goes to the husband
- Sex before marriage is okay for her, but she'd respect a partner who wanted to wait
- Traditional in gender roles (likes cooking and staying home) but not very religious; in the bedroom "that's going to be different," which Pea translates as adventurous
- Doesn't want kids at all, which Pea calls very rare for a Filipina
- Religion doesn't matter as long as he respects her beliefs and doesn't talk bad about God; they can meet halfway
- Cheating is an absolute deal breaker. She calls herself one of the most loyal people she's ever known and says "cheating is a choice"
- Pea asks about a partner asking permission first (consensual non-monogamy): still no, she wants him loyal to her only
- Jealousy: 10 out of 10 (Pea bumps it to 10.5)
- Would she date a broke guy, even the most loving and loyal one? "For now, no," because she manages her own finances and would end up financing him
- Minimum is 25,000 pesos a month and above; Pea again calls it very doable
Third interviewee
- Her generation follows its own path rather than family, because parents have "old beliefs"
- Says it's better to be married before sex, but when Pea asks what happens if they turn out to be sexually incompatible, she has no answer
- Not really religious, yet if she dated a non-religious man she would "introduce God to him"
- Pea asks the tricky question of whether she's still a virgin: "No." Pea asks what happened to waiting until marriage: "It happens"
- Wants a foreigner who is tall, meaning 5'6" to 5'8", or just taller than her
- Says she doesn't care about money and doesn't need his money, but when pushed for a monthly minimum she says 100,000 pesos "or more," reasoning that he's from abroad
- Deal breakers include "micro cheating," which she defines as looking at other girls or talking to another person; jealousy is a 10
Next interviewees
- One would marry a foreigner even if her parents disapproved because it's her life; as an only child she figures her parents have no choice but to accept who she loves
- Mr. Right is someone fun who loves her dearly, handsome, and tall "enough" (taller than her)
- On husband vs. parents, one says it depends and calls it a very hard question, even after Pea cites the Bible's "two become one"
- Pea asks why there are so many single moms if Filipinas are so traditional; one answer is that many see no harm in getting pregnant before marriage because "life is amazing" and you only live once
- The same woman says she is not traditional and hopes her mom won't see the video
- She wants two or three kids no matter what, even if it takes IVF
- Religion matters in that her partner should believe in God, but any God is fine, even Shiva, as long as he fears God
Final interviewee (the most articulate answers)
- Husband first: marriage means centering a big part of your life on that person, and being loyal to family for 100% of your decisions means thinking about them more than yourself; women deserve the freedom to choose their husbands first
- Pea responds that her husband will be lucky, since many foreigners worry about being second to the Filipino family
- Sex before marriage: you should have it, because you need a physical connection as well as an emotional one, and some couples are "just physically bad for each other"
- On single moms despite Catholic culture: you can't predict whether a man will run once a baby comes, so the pressure shouldn't all be on the mom. Pea: "It takes two to tango"
- A man adamant about no kids is a deal breaker because she wants to keep the option open: "That person wants what they want and I want what I want"
- Not devout, but prays during big life changes; an atheist is fine with mutual respect
Pea's wrap-up
- These city women answered very differently from provincial women on sex and religion
- They still share the provincial emphasis on children and they don't have unrealistic money expectations
- "Even the city girls aren't looking for guys to be 6-ft tall giants"
- She asks viewers to say in the comments whether they'd pick a city or province girl
- Closing skit: she plays a cop pulling over a viewer for "speeding through my video and not paying attention," and when he says he doesn't want to watch her stupid videos she orders a full cavity search
